“Select your instrument according to the child’s size,” writes Pearl. “For the under one year old, a little, ten to twelve-inch long, willowy branch (stripped of any knots that might break the skin) about one-eighth inch diameter is su
fficient. Sometimes alternatives have to be sought. A one-foot ruler, or its equivalent in a paddle, is a sufficient alternative. For the larger child, a belt or larger tree branch is effective.”
Additional advice from their Web site: Switching with a length of quarter-inch plumbing supply line is a “real attention-getter.”
When you are spanking your child and she cries and is upset about it, Michael Pearl says this:
“When she screams or flees, calmly follow through by physically subduing her. Sit on her, if you have to, and slowly explain that you will not tolerate this resistance. Explain in a normal tone (She will eventually stop screaming and listen) that you are going to give her, say, five licks for the original offense and an additional two licks for the fit. Slowly apply the five licks, counting out loud. When I say slowly, I mean with a thirty second gap between each lick and a calm explanation to the screaming child that you are not the least impressed except that you are going to spank harder and she still gets the additional two licks plus one more for her ongoing screaming. When you have finally arrived at five well- anticipated and carefully counted licks, say, “OK, your spanking is over; that is the five licks you got for hitting your brother, but now I must give you two more for trying to run away.” Give her one lick and say, “Now, that is one of the licks for running away; you have one more coming.” Give the second lick, and then calmly and slowly explain that all her licks are over now, except for the one additional lick she incurred for continuing to scream during the spanking. After you have finished, tell her that you are going to let her up now, if she stops screaming, otherwise you are going to give her one additional lick. If she stops, or at least makes a great effort to, then you have won. You may never have to go through this horrible time again. But, if she is continuing to scream in defiance, you have the option of continuing to warn and spank, or of ceasing here with a parting warning: “Next time you better not run and throw a fit; for if you do, you will only get more licks and harder ones.”
This is an excerpt from a book called To Train Up a Child by Michael and Debi Pearl, as reported by Child Abuse Australia. The book is published by the authors’ ministry – No Greater Joy.
In New Zealand, where there is an anti-smacking law, they are considering whether to ban this book. In the UK it is illegal to smack a child with an implement. In the past I’ve blogged about banning books and my view has always been that books should never be banned. But are there certain books that should qualify for a ban, or at least come with a warning?
Apparently the five children of the authors of To Train Up a Child were all home-schooled and are now well-adjusted adults with families of their own. But the book has been linked to cases of child abuse and even to the deaths of a few children. In each case the advice the Pearls give on “child-training” was followed by parents who were struggling to raise their children and sought advice through their Church networks. This was the book that was handed to them, this was their manual. It’s available for free on an online Christian website, and you can buy it for £4.19 on Amazon.co.uk.
Worryingly, it is particularly popular with evangelical home-schoolers. Michael Pearl’s sole credentials on child training, as he puts it, is raising five children. He and his wife Debi quote that the Bible and common sense are the foundations for effective parenting.
This is a huge topic and I have barely touched upon it here. (Blame my rotten cold!)
I only heard about this book recently through Twitter, but I find the idea of a book that promotes violence to very young children horrifying and frightening, and I wonder what you all make of this...
fficient. Sometimes alternatives have to be sought. A one-foot ruler, or its equivalent in a paddle, is a sufficient alternative. For the larger child, a belt or larger tree branch is effective.” Additional advice from their Web site: Switching with a length of quarter-inch plumbing supply line is a “real attention-getter.”
When you are spanking your child and she cries and is upset about it, Michael Pearl says this:“When she screams or flees, calmly follow through by physically subduing her. Sit on her, if you have to, and slowly explain that you will not tolerate this resistance. Explain in a normal tone (She will eventually stop screaming and listen) that you are going to give her, say, five licks for the original offense and an additional two licks for the fit. Slowly apply the five licks, counting out loud. When I say slowly, I mean with a thirty second gap between each lick and a calm explanation to the screaming child that you are not the least impressed except that you are going to spank harder and she still gets the additional two licks plus one more for her ongoing screaming. When you have finally arrived at five well- anticipated and carefully counted licks, say, “OK, your spanking is over; that is the five licks you got for hitting your brother, but now I must give you two more for trying to run away.” Give her one lick and say, “Now, that is one of the licks for running away; you have one more coming.” Give the second lick, and then calmly and slowly explain that all her licks are over now, except for the one additional lick she incurred for continuing to scream during the spanking. After you have finished, tell her that you are going to let her up now, if she stops screaming, otherwise you are going to give her one additional lick. If she stops, or at least makes a great effort to, then you have won. You may never have to go through this horrible time again. But, if she is continuing to scream in defiance, you have the option of continuing to warn and spank, or of ceasing here with a parting warning: “Next time you better not run and throw a fit; for if you do, you will only get more licks and harder ones.”
This is an excerpt from a book called To Train Up a Child by Michael and Debi Pearl, as reported by Child Abuse Australia. The book is published by the authors’ ministry – No Greater Joy.
In New Zealand, where there is an anti-smacking law, they are considering whether to ban this book. In the UK it is illegal to smack a child with an implement. In the past I’ve blogged about banning books and my view has always been that books should never be banned. But are there certain books that should qualify for a ban, or at least come with a warning?
Apparently the five children of the authors of To Train Up a Child were all home-schooled and are now well-adjusted adults with families of their own. But the book has been linked to cases of child abuse and even to the deaths of a few children. In each case the advice the Pearls give on “child-training” was followed by parents who were struggling to raise their children and sought advice through their Church networks. This was the book that was handed to them, this was their manual. It’s available for free on an online Christian website, and you can buy it for £4.19 on Amazon.co.uk.
Worryingly, it is particularly popular with evangelical home-schoolers. Michael Pearl’s sole credentials on child training, as he puts it, is raising five children. He and his wife Debi quote that the Bible and common sense are the foundations for effective parenting.
This is a huge topic and I have barely touched upon it here. (Blame my rotten cold!)
I only heard about this book recently through Twitter, but I find the idea of a book that promotes violence to very young children horrifying and frightening, and I wonder what you all make of this...
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